What is work worth?
Well its worth a crummy base pay plus a tiny commission. (Though I do like it)..
Its worth getting out of the house with other adults.
Its worth getting to wake up and put on make-up, do my hair and feel good about how I look.
Its worth seeing a paycheque come in every two weeks that is MINE! I DID IT!
But is it worth having my daughter scream at me and tantrum all day everyday since she realized mommy has been doing something other than spending all day with her?
She is clearly dealing with an adjustment, and she is only two - but the results are brutal. All day she screams and tantrums and acts like a real toad with me because she doesnt understand why I have 'abandonned her'....
Any words of wisdom? How long can this last??
Thursday, March 25, 2010
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A bit. The more you act sorry, the more she realizes that she is pushing your buttons and will keep on doing it....and I'm not so sure that letting a 2 year old rule the roost is a good thing.
ReplyDeleteThe answer is: "this is the way life is, get used to it." Don't apologize, don't act like it is a big deal....if she has to scream to get used to it, have her go to her room til she feels like being with people. If she won't go, take her there, dump her on her bed, and remind her that she can scream, but not where she hurts anyone else's ears.....
And when she comes out not screaming, don't make a big deal of that either, but in a minute or so, do something fun.
I agree that you can't let the guilt make you give in to her tantrums. She can stay in her room until she feels like acting appropriately. She will get tired of spending time on her own. Ignoring the tirades will help. She is asking for your attention in a negative way rather than positive. Reverse it. Give her lots of attention when she is being good and none when she is acting out.
ReplyDeleteDid any of that make sense? LOL
They gave great advice.
ReplyDeleteGood behavior>>good consequences (Mommy smiles, gives hugs).
Bad behavior>>bad consequences (Mommy's face shows nothing, no eye contact, and she's ignoring me).
Distract her with an activity.
Praise desired behavior.
This is a big one with my kids: they act up even more if they are thirsty or hungry. Keep her fed on a regular basis with healthier stuff and plenty of water.
I know that's not the end-all advice. Super Nanny was my saving grace. I ordered her book and watched her show and found them very helpful. Maybe if Lolo has something to look forward to every time you come home from/go to work, she may associate it with something more positive.
Patience, persistence, time. And don't eat that entire cake/pie/batch of brownies in one sitting while trying to cope! :)
I'm dreading this. I start my new job on Thursday. Let us know how things develop, and how the transition goes
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